As someone who has always felt like that making new friends is one of the scariest thoughts in the world, HOW TO BE ALONE: IF YOU WANT TO, AND EVEN IF YOU DON’T is a refreshing reminder that sometimes it is not so bad to go at it alone. I resonate with Lane’s book on a personal level.
Growing up, I had one good friend. We were inseparable, but they moved in elementary school, leaving me to tackle the rest of my adolescence childhood alone. It was terrifying, growing up, when you always felt different from everyone around you – something that I was aware of from such a young age.
Lane Moore weaves together a beautiful story of what it truly feels like when you check out emotionally from every relationship because you know in the long run you either hurt them or yourself. But Moore reminds the reader that knowing that, in the end, you must be true to yourself.
I remember one night when I moved to my current city, where I knew no one. It was a Friday night, and I felt completely alone. I laid on the floor of my apartment, stared at the ceiling for at least four hours.
HOW TO BE ALONE pushes the repressed memories of what could have beento the forefront of your mind and reassures you that everything willbe okay. The essays navigate through the growing from the pain, learning from past mistakes, yet fully understanding that being your true self is more important over shaping yourself to fit in some mold for some person that isn’t you. Not everyone you meet has a place in your life permanently. Some stay for a while, and some ditch you as soon as a better opportunity arises.
I highly recommend HOW TO BE ALONE to anyone who has ever questioned their true self and to those who have a part of “the outcasts.”
Moore crafts this book in a way that is immensely witty, funny, and relatable. Especially if you are an awkward mess of a human being who does their best to keep those around them happy even if you have to sacrifice everything you stand for.
I read this book in about two days because I could not put it down. The important aspect to remember is at some point in everyone’s life there is a feeling of being alone. Some people deal with it better than others. Moore explains and attempts to teach how situations will always turn out okay, and how you will get to the point eventually where everything seems to click together. Everything you have gone through will be worth it. If you have a close group of friends, a significant other, one friend, only your parents, or even only yourself, you have to remember to show everyone around your kindness and how you truly care. There is too much hate and struggle in this world to not hold tight to what you have and to not be sincere to those you meet every day.
Do not read this book just because I have recommended it to you. Read this book because everyone can learn some lesson about life from it. I know I did.
Steven Gattis is a recent graduate of Wichita State University with a Master of Arts in Communication. He likes reading, going to concerts, and collecting hats. Find him on Twitter, @GattisSteven, and Instagram, @stevengattis.